live my life

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Mon, 14/11/2011 - 23:08
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hello! i dont really no how to say this or if its even going to sound right but lately im becoming more aware of how much i live of others. if other people tell me or i see people doing xyz id go and do xyz even if id feel crap or didt ave the energy. i need to keep believing that im in recovery and i need to go through this process to help me recover and when i do well then ill be able to live my own life. its so easy for me to say but has anybody got suggestions that might have helped along the way. xx

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Tue, 15/11/2011 - 13:19
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Hi Fitzy, I think I know what

Hi Fitzy,

I think I know what you mean here. I often lived my life on other peoples terms, what they said or did or asked me to do I could never say no to them. I didn't believe I had the right to say no, but now as I am fully recovered I realise just what a simple "no" can stand for, it stood for me standing up for myself and protecting myself, I often ran myself into the ground by taking up too many activities, huge lacking in self care.

I began to respect myself, and believe in my value, and my value to look out for me and my Recovery.

You and your life are completely unique, you have the choices to make it what you wish it to be. When you find yourself living off someone else's life stop and ask yourself, What do I want for me? What do I want Fitzy to stand for? What do I want Fitzy's values to be?What do I want MY Life to be?

You are the creator of your unique self, take pride in that :)

Hope this was of some sort of help to you,

Jacqueline xx

"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you GREATER then any obstacle." - Christian D Larson

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Thu, 17/11/2011 - 11:02
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Hi Fitzy, wow i really

Hi Fitzy, wow i really relate. I have to say i did and still do to an extent live my life based on comparisons and on what others do or would like. However, it has changed for me a huge amount and i feel it is still a work in progress. In terms of my family and work, i now do what suits me and i guess this is the most difficult but its friends and my boyfriend that still needs more work. I realised yesterday at a session that its lack of self worth and compassion for myself. See i always wnated to run, run from emotions, feelings, insecurity and abandonment. Not only did i run to exercise and running around like a blue arss fly but i also ran to people, meeting tom dick and harry over staying with myself. Now i realise that the more we trust ourselves, give time for self care and time to look after our well being, the less what other people are doing will matter, what is right for me is not right for others all the time, just like what is right for others may not be right for u. I guess its all a part of getting to know who u are, what u like, as Jacqueline said ur values, what makes ur heart sing??

Questions to ask that cud bring up a lot,
Keep up the amazing work

Love Butterfly xx

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