IBS

hey hun,

I know the feeling but i find destressing the best like mine gets so bad esp with this new job nightmare city!!!! but i use a hot water bottle at night too and peppermint. maybe a bit of relaxation and focusin on something else could help a bit... its what helps me, sorry no great advise but simple things the only things that work for me. i find i do have to be carefula nd watch what triggers it for me sometimes a lot of the time its stress and just a result of not been honest and holding stuff in and been stress etc... but yeah make friends with a hot water bottle ha

Hi Hon...

Your human, and a woman. Us women have huge hormonal changes going on in our bodies and that coupled with ED

I sense your frustration with this issue and I can understand how uncomfortable things may seem at the moment. Are you having ED reactions or Cara reactions?? Is it ok to feel uncomfortable?? The thing is Cara, for me I realised that I am a woman, and what comes with that isnt always comfortable, bloating, hormonal changes, mood swings, periods etc etc and these for any woman are challenging. Its important for me now to realise that our bodies are senstive and that certain changes do happen but that "IT does pass"... Its ok to feel uncomfortable, I suppose when you do feel this, this is the time to really up the self care and tell yourself its just for now. I think every woman who feels uncomfortable in there bodies imagines in some form they have bloated etc but most just let it go, where as ED I suppose clings to it and uses it against the person.

You probably are sick of hearing that stress is a predisposing factor, isnt it to alot of things. You know you should give yourself credit for speaking out about it, because for many its an embarrsing thing, so well done, this is something in one level you are not ashamed about your body for, so well done. Maybe not labelling that you suffer from IBS could be a start, because for me I feel putting a label on something almost reassures and repeats to yourself in some level that you have a certain condition and you are in some level sending out an energy confirming to yourself. Maybe you could just exchange saying you suffer from IBS with, something else. Even, my body is asking me to look after it, and sending me signs to sit back. Maybe its your bodies way to get you to challenge whatever area you are finding challening at the moment. Being comfortable with yourself, the big old trusting your body. I am sure your boyfriend likes your for you, the funny thing is, my friend goes on about having crows feet around her eyes and she things everyone looks and sees them on photos. She seriously stresses herself out when she sees photos of herself. She focus so intensely on them and not the experience. The thing is, I dont see them, I see her smile her spirit, her energy, I dont see what shes telling me. Ok when she goes on about it enough times, I see them, but being honest its only if I choose to focus enough of my energy on that.

So, I know this is easier said than done, but go easy on yourself. Try to let it go or at least tell yourself it will pass. And up the self care, you deserve so much more and in one way isnt a lovely thing ok comfortable yes, but your body is talking to you... So, bare with it Cara, you always look beautful to me inside and out and I can never tell if you are bloated or not, because I see you... And also, if you are feeling uncomfortable, its ok, its what you do with it that counts.

Namaste
Heather

saoirse, i think its amazing you could push it aside sometimes i feel like its almost like a break out of recovery jail that i can have instant relief if i dont do xyz. but i know my body will take time to adjust to food and also that i need to trust that as i progrss the anxiety and stress will pass.for me the digestive side effects are friend and foe. they show me what a horrible thing ed is that this is what you get the the ideal we had built up is all an illusion. but it also and i know i have the choice but time and time again when the pain or bloating or whatever gets too overwhelming back to how can i fix it aka condition, which i am working on, sitting with it, rather than going back to square one again. but like i said the situation may not be i deal but i created this situation it was my actions my fault so i just have to suck it up so i can stop any more sideeffects or even possibly shorten them.

Personally, I found when I was in recovery that the more I focused on my digestive problems the worse they seemed to become. Also, when in the condition I would have named it as IBS, but now that I have been recovered for some time, and am able to trust myself more, have become more aware of my food sensitivites - for instance, sulfites, are a big sensitivity for me, so have become more aware of which additives in different foods to watch out for. I was so thrilled the other week, when I found some coconut milk at the Oriental Emporium which had no additives (whitening or thickening agent), and I really could feel the difference (no bloating). Making food from scratch, as opposed to buying sauces or pastes, I tend to have less of a reaction too. Also, different times of the month, can trigger IBS type symptoms. Today I would not say what I have is IBS, but more about being aware of my sensitivities in food. Also, I have found doctors are quick to label someone with IBS without doing the proper investigative procedures - for instance a friend of mine was labelled by her gp as having IBS, but has since found out it was the warning signs of the onset of her having seizures (epilepsy), and since she is able to manage that with medication, the IBS is no longer a problem. After having spoken to one of my brothers, he found out by trial and error what his allergies/sensitivies were. Both of us having asthma, are quite prone to having sensitivities too.

It is about figuring out what works for you, however trying to find out what the sensitivities are, in my opinion, best left to either the later stages of recovery, or when recovered, as by that stage you have come to trust your body more, and not analyse every sensation as being something which it may not be.

In love and light,

Mystique