Film about ED - Swept
Did you see this film? Sound interesting. Would like to know your opinion, please
The message is to me that we all can learn from one another professionals, sufferers and family members - let’s start now
M
Hi Marie
Just watched that and am a bit teary. So much suffering for both, so much emotion, so many unresolved issues. I have 3 brothers and it made me consider the impact on them, something I had not really dwelt on in recent times. Like in this movie, they would have made themselves scarce when I was in treatment and I may have underestimated their feelings over the years.
All movies, even if slightly off key can only help open discussion and heighten awareness, so overall this is not a bad one, more about emotion than food and weight
Kizzy
HiMarie, I also watched the clip, how did i feel?? Gosh i feel differently watching it now than i would have when i was smack bang in the worst of the condition. I felt sorry for her brother, de was trying to uinderstand yet she couldnt or wonulnt let him in, i just saw the condition, not the girl, what it made me think was when i was in treatments, my sisters and my dad knew i was in there, they knew i was there somewhere but the conition took over, the self centredness and negativity of the condition was winning over...now in recovery they see more of Cara, they see positivity and the light begin to shine, i believe that families just want to see that spark again, they dont give up but ur right they too suffer in isolation, sometimes i used to think they didnt care, or they were just angry and fed up, but no, watching this clip i realise they just didnt understand and were angry at the condtion NOT me..this is a very real clip thanks for posting
Love Cara x
i have mixed opinions on this.
1. it is good as it shows recovery or challenges accepting love rather than others i have seen that focus on food and behaviours and weight.
2. However maybe cause my condition is still very strong and o know guilt is a wasted emotion but i felt really guilty after seeing how it affected him, like thats what i do to my family and friends and therapists at times, i shut them out wont let them in.... mmm i think early on it can open your mind but also the ed can take hold o it and twist itsgood intentions.
Ciara xxx
Dear Ciara, thank you for your post, it is not you, that ia causing hardship to your family, it is your condition and you did not choose to have ED.
Ican even see from your contributions on Iceberg, that you are working hard on your recovery.
We do not choose our condition, but we need to choose a recover and you are doing it – so plenty of credit.
I feel it is helpful to learn about family members and deal with person's recovery, we need to learn that without guilt, but that takes a time, non of us can do it just by saying – “ I let go guilt”, for all of us we need alot of practice and patience with ourselves.
Learning about people around us, and see that they care will help us to know ourselves. When we have ED we do not believe we are loved, but we all are cared and loved by somebody and we need to believe that to be free, the guilt is the barrier which does not allow us to see that.
So, guilt free week – and maybe month – the freedom is coming...
You are right about the focus on the weight, I actually did not see a film about Ed that I would say – just great – still waiting for someone to make one – maybe one of you creative Icebergers will produce one someday – I am not joking
Marie
Just watched the film and I can very much relate to what Ciara mentioned - at times I feel so much guilt for causing worry, and being a 'burden' on my family.
I think the film helps to highlight the impact of ED on family members. I feel that when we are in the condition (well for me anyway), I can become extremely self centred. I can moan and complain about how challenging recovery is, get annoyed with my mum and brother because they are not helping or saying the right thing, and don't understand what I am going through. But they to are also in a lot of pain - which I failed to recognise for a long time. For a while, my family where tip toeing around me, walking on egg shells, afraid to say anything to me incase I would get annoyed. However as I become more honest with them about recovery and ask for their support, well then we are all reading from the same page!!! (if that makes sense).
Recovery is a huge learning process, not just the sufferer, but for family to. I think this film highlighted the importance of letting family members become part of recovery, to allow them understand what recovery is, and therefore make the process alot easier for everyone. We can't expect our family members to be there for us unless we are willing to let them!!
Erika x
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Thank you Kizzi for your post.
I do feel very strongly that it could be very helpful to open discussion; hopefully Iceberg can be the place.
There are a lot of issues that family members do not understand, and it is not their fault, we have so much to learn from one another. Often both sides just suffer in isolation, which is very sad, but I believe that it will change one day – maybe we can be part of that change.
You give yourself plenty of credit that you are working on your recovery - the more recovered people, the more hope and understanding we can bring.
Thank you again
Marie
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