Figuring it out!

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adon
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We've been having a tough couple of weeks lately. It's like we've entered a new phase & we're all trying to catch up & understand what's going on. I say "we" although this of course, is my daughter's story. As a family however, we're all in this together, inching our way along the road to recovery.
I hate that just as we get comfortable with things a certain way, we seem to enter a whole other sphere & have to learn a brand new set of coping strategies. The difficult thing is, you have to work it all out for yourself every time; there are no rule books or guidelines; each experience is specific to you & your family. Most of the time I'm really very strong, but this interim period gets to me every time until I figure out what's happening & what I need to do. It shakes me up & makes me start to doubt myself & my ability to be the support I need & want, to be.
Things that help, are just sitting in that little kitchen in Marino & feeling the warmth & kindness of all who pass through. Talking to therapists is also wise. After a particularly vulnerable day recently, I shared the last few minutes of my daughter's session & in under 10 minutes I found the strength I needed to soldier on. I also aim to begin trying to lighten up a bit & to try not to take everything so seriously......might be easier said than done but I'm prepared to give it a go!
Through it all, incredibly, I never seem to loose hope, or the belief that things will work out ok. I believe that's down to my darling daughter. When she smiles that big smile of hers, how could I but believe that all will be well.
Best wishes to all the other families out there, figuring it out as they go, just like us x

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Dear Adon, what a wonderful post – I just love to see the “we” , I know your daughter is the one who was diagnosed, but the “we” will be the greatest help to her.
ED is a family condition, families do not caused it, but as you said – everyone is touched by it.
I would like as well to say that as long the family use the “we” that everyone will be as well benefiting from it.
I am so glad we are starting to hear more and more from parents and other family members on Iceberg, really appreciated.
We all need to learn from one another, to share hope together and as well to remind ourselves that we are not on our own.
Thank you very much
M

There is always a solution…:):):)