change: feeling safe and secure in change

It's funny at the moment - I feel very afraid of change. Before I was recovered I was very interested in travel, and set off here and there without a hesitation. In the early days, when I had just recently recovered I was again ready to jump into anything - relationships, moving house, moving countries etc. Now, since I have broken up with my ex-boyfriend, and come back here to live (a year and a half ago), I realize I am afraid of change. And a part of me thinks - ok, that's fair enough - you're recovering from all the intense emotions of the previous few years. And it was a mighty blast of emotions. But now i'm at a stage where I think if I stay still any longer I will simply stagnate! On the one hand I'm protecting myself, being gentle with myself and self-loving and that's great, but on the other, I'm not actively moving towards the things I want in my life. Maybe this is a time when patience is required, when inner work is being done; and when I'm at a certain stage, the outer world will quickly and effortless come into alignment for me. Or do I need to make certain actions to confront this fear?! The phrase that came up for me in a recent sessions was: I am open to changes that work for me. I am open and at the same time critical of change - in other words, not blindly accepting things, but questioning if they are right for me.
Well, that's my state of mind at the moment! if anyone has had any similar experience, I would love to read about it!