any tips??
Hey everyone!
So tomorrow I am going on a day out with some teams in my school, two teachers are going and maybe thirty or more other girls.. I know its gonna be an active day, and my anxiety.levels are through the roof.. Condition is throwin challenges at.me left right n centre! I know to enjoy it, and to give my all I need nourishment but the thoughts of eating in front of them is makin me so scared, half of.me is saying dont go at all! Or the safest thing is not to bring anything, but I dont want to.give in to this ideas..
Does anyone have any tips or tools to get through this??
Hello Aine,
I know the condition always suggest the things that are not helpful to us, you would regret if you did not go.
Many people find helpful when that ask themselves: ”How would I think if I was recovered?”
It is just one day – even being here on Iceberg shows that you want to be recovered, so - Aine’s condition is going to take a break for a day, think like Recovered, nourish yourself like Recovered, enjoy yourself like Recovered….as I said, it is only one day and nothing can happen – you just might enjoy yourself - is that not what you deserve????
So, all the best tomorrow and let us know how did it go.
Act Recovered – Be Recovered!!! You can do it!!!
All the best:)
M
Hi Aine
Just a few lines, I'm not yet fully recovered and had a challenging occasion recently along the lines you describe. I had a school reunion and there was a meal involved. I debated in my mind whether to go. Is it too much, will I cope, what about the meal, will people be watching me, and so on. I took a dose of self honesty and asked myself, does Kiz want to go and is it condition thats putting the doubts there. Condition was playing mind games, stay home, stay with me, why put yourself through all that, you can have dinner alone with me!! Pretty obvious when you spell it out. I then asked myself would I regret going or not going, more, even if I found it challenging. I decided to avoid would be more regretful. I also then followed a tip from one of my careworkers, when at an early stage and have to eat with others, she suggested I mirror someone sensible, just do what they do, have what they have and sure its only one day.
Anyway , in my case it was a lovely occasion, once engrossed in chat with my friends, condition shrank in the corner and I managed the meal far better than I anticipated. The people and the event filled my head so condition thoughts, although there, were not as loud and I was more able to minimise their impact on me.
Hope this helps, have a lovely day out
kiz
Well done Aine,
I just wanted to say this, because this is exactly how Iceberg can work well.
By you taking on the motivational advice you received and then communicating this back here, you are passing your motivation on to somebody else here on Iceberg.
Well done, I hope you are giving yourself plenty of credit for this.
Love,
xxx Robin xxx
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hey thanks very much for the replies :)
friday proved to be a great day out! despite the cold, it was a fun day.
I liked ur idea of acting recovered Marie, so i decided to give it a go.. and it turned out better than i imagined, u were right it is what i deserve.. if i had one bit of advice for anyone it wud be give urself a break for a few hours, like Marie said its just one day, whats the worst that can happen?? those few hours gave me a taste of what freedom could really mean, and its something im pushing for even more now, condition would never have allowed me a day like that! so a big HAHA to ED :)
Kizzy, i have been trying that mirroring exercise for quite a while now, I took this advice on Friday but it proved much too difficult as the friend i was with most has a very big appetite, but it gives me comfort as she is very healthy and one day i strive to be like her, confident and content with what she eats and how she looks. i didnt quite mirror her but i had what i was comofrtable with and i too found that condition shrank into the corner,
thanks for the advice:)
Aine x