The more I work on recovery, with each layer, stuff gets thrown up. For me I try to keep going back to what Marie says, where's the learning, every situation is an opportunity to learn something about myself and how I think, how I interact and I am in the world.
The problem arises though when family members aren't looking at things the same way. They have been used to condition running the show, and as I start to step back more and slow down my reactions and often responding quite differently to before, it can often cause alot of upset.