Family and Recovery

relationships workshop

Submitted by aideen on Mon, 06/09/2010 - 11:55

today being dull and rainy i decided to commit some time to recovery to fully reflect on all the learnings from the relationships, friendships and recovery workshop last saturday.

the number one thing i learned is that the most important relationship anyone has being a sufferer or family member or carer is the one they have with themself. untill i accept , then like, then love ME, i cannot fully accept, like or love anyone else. these relationships will be unstable as they have no solid foundation. distorted thinking about oneself leads to relationships which are distorted with others.

walk the talk

Submitted by kizzy on Sun, 29/08/2010 - 20:21

Having been deeply in condition for a great many years and only in the last year or so really knuckled down to facing my reality and doing something about it, not through lack of will, just plain and simple lack of true awareness of what I was doing to my body and acceptance that my life was not a life. I thought that my family were making a big deal out of something, and I truly believed that I could stop any time I wanted, that I just liked being skinny and it was none of their business, until I actually tried and oh boy was it a whole other story.

How do I talk to my friends about my ed?

Submitted by sarah on Sat, 28/08/2010 - 08:57

How do I talk to my friends about my ed?

the value of sickness

Submitted by amanda on Thu, 05/08/2010 - 08:53

After a one to one yesterday, I have become fully aware of the value of sickness that exists in my family. It took me a long time to realise it but now that I do, I think I feel quite I dunno angry or frustrated or something along those lines that makes me clench my fists and grit my teeth. I guess I have always grown up with ill-health and spent alot of my childhood in hospital. I thought that this was normal, it felt normal for me. But I realised that when the doctors told me I was perfectly healthy again, that my mum wasn't as loving and adoring with me anymore.

Interesting learning

Submitted by marie on Sun, 25/07/2010 - 19:50

Some really interesting realisations on this link about the film “Swept”.

I feel these posts prove how important is that family and sufferers learn from one another and as well educate one another, let’s start the learning here on Iceberg....

We all could benefit from his discussionl!!!!
Marie

http://www.eatingdisorderselfhelp.com/forum/film-about-ed-swept#comment-...

What helped me and still is...

Submitted by marie on Fri, 23/07/2010 - 17:46

I hope you enjoy these poems.
I especially liked - “...we all need to be free”. I do believe we will be.
All the best
Marie

Just Be There

Don’t ask me whats wrong? Don’t ask me why?
Above all don’t despair.
Just stand by me, through good and bad
By this I’ll know you care.

I may not thank you every day, I may not ever at all
But the reflief that I have knowing your there,
Guarantees I cannot fall

I’ll trip up often, as you will too,
At times there will be screams
But someday soon, we’ll stand side by side
And start to live our dreams

credit for small change

Submitted by kizzy on Sun, 18/07/2010 - 20:29

Today I am doing something different, and that is making this post and giving myself credit for a very tiny change today. Sunday is typically a lazy day in my family, up a bit late , no schedule, breakfast can run into lunch. For me, the distorted thinking does not allow such, I'm usually up early and obeying condition thoughts. Today my family wanted to do brunch down town, my worst nightmare, oh god, how to get around this one, is my initial thought.