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Its ok to say "I'm finding life tough"

I am writing this post as I am finding this week a challenge and I figured that it would help to write this post, to be my own advisor and put into practice all I have learnt.  And I suppose I am writing this too to show myself that although recovered, life isnt always 100% rosy, it can be challening, it throughs you things sometimes unpleasant and its ok that to find things challening, its ok to say its tough, its ok to ask for help.

I am having a few life challenges at the moment and one in particular this week as literally grounded me.  Life has a funny way of giving you what you need, maybe in some way I was literally meant to stop and do "nothing". I think I am realizing that anyone with or without ED would find this a challenge.  What I also realized is I have reached out, I cried today to my friend on the phone, and that is good, usually I wouldnt, but today well things just didnt seem to be well fair, or going my way, just a few disappointments.  But as I write this post I realize that although things were tough, I dealt with them instead of running, I didnt avoid, I stopped and dealt with them and although the situaion was challenging for me, something felt different, I knew that I was ok.  I didnt have that past sensation of being out of my body, being alone and not able or wanting to handle it.  Funny thing is I have had to deal with all these challenges on my own and I didnt need anyone else but sometimes having someone there, reaching out is ok too.  Sometimes I hold too much in, thinking I can deal with it all on my own, Miss Independant, but slowly but surely I am learing that I can ask for help... I am happy that I can...

So I am going to write a list here of all the things that are helping me.

. Watch movies.  (I watched 27 dresses today, good movie)

. Read my book. (Reading "A Short History of Tractors in Ukrainan",its  funny.

. Surf the net. (I watched a few documentaries on UTube).

. Now I have the time to really log into IceBerg and read all the great posts.

. Listen to music. (I love to listen to Ray Darcy in the morn).

. Make some jeweller. (Ok I didnt actually do it yet, but I will.)

. Paint a picture. (Ok I didnt do that yet either, but I might do.)

So anyone have any good movies, or books to recommend that be good.  Or any good mediation tapes.  I really would like to do more meditation or maybe start but I am finding that not all mediation tapes sit with me, so any recommendations be greatly appreciated.

So any tips of things I could do while "this car is stationed," send my way...

Thanks everyone

Namaste

Heather

Comments

hola beautiful !!

Submitted on May 15th, 2010

Hola Chiqua !!

Sending you a big hug of love and get well soon , absolutely hun , recovered life still brings challenges our way but its just like you have beautifully shared in your post , being recovered we dont become super human !!! we are beautifully human , and recovered its not about the situations or the feelings , it HOW WE DEAL WITH THEM  that is different . Ah Heather you would  have cracked yourself up laughing a few weeks ago after I injured myself at my scuba dive!, I absolutely love my self care so pampering and mositurising is somthing I love to do , so as I was laid up , I asked hubby to help me out , now give a man a razor to shave your legs , hilarious smiley, and I had shower gel used as mositurising cream !! conditioner as shampoo !!! ah it was great craic !!! , but it made realise , how much I am loved heart, and how much I love looking after MYSELF !!!!  ........... it thE challenging times , that make us appreciate how much we LOVE , being  ALIVE AND FREEEEEEEEEEE !!!.

I do hope your pain eases , soon ,  sending you a big cuddle of get well soon my beautiful , and thank you for sharing a beautiful post . Your an inspiration to all xxx

Lots of hugs bella

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Hi Heather, I am a fan of

Submitted on May 15th, 2010

Hi Heather,

I am a fan of meditation, and find it really helps me switch off if I've had a busy day.  What type of meditation are you drawn to?  I either do guided meditation following a cd or just do my own thing using my breath, and sometimes will incorporate crystals into it too, depending on what is needed.  One guided meditation which I love is Meditations for Inner Peace by Toni Carmine Salerno.  There is one on the cd called Tree Meditation, which I have found particularly helpful - you should be able to find the meditation cd on amazon.

Hi Heather, I am thinking

Submitted on May 15th, 2010

Hi Heather,

I am thinking of u at this moment as i know it must be very difficult and painful, i remember it from lanzarote and u seemed in a lot of pain..what a great post that u are able to ask for help, we are not super human and it is important to have a good cry..

If you look up utube for bridget kramer woods its 5 mins of mediation on the cliffs of cornwall, i love this it got me started to just even do 5 minutes every day..look up utube or www.anusara.com and find any mediation from these teachers, this is the yoga i do and its mind blowing stuff i think, even read up a bit on what anusara is. Boks, i am reading the celestine prohecy at mo, finding it a but hard to read but just a suggestion, could u get box sets, i have gossip girl if u have ever seen that ur more than welcome to it!! Twilight movies, soppy and romantic i love them!! Sex and the city boxset, when i broke my toe i watched endless boxsets as it is a gud distraction cause u are wondering what will happen next!!

Sitting out in the garden if sunny also helped me a lot, legs up the wall, get the blood rushing to ur head, ul feel relaxed but energised at the same time. Josh Radin, cursiy of Joanne, he is amazing singer and very relaxing, LOusie Hay 101 stress free affirmations cd i find that gud to listen to,

Other old school movies, pretty woman, body guard, when a man loves a woman anything u used to like when u were younger??I bought a scrap book recently maybe u could work on smtg like this??

If i think of more stuff ill let ya no, rest up hon and get well soon xx

Love Cara xx