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It Will Pass

"It Will Pass" are the three words that are so important to me. At times I am drowning in the tension and the pressures of the negetive mind of my loved one. I work so hard not to let my mind be overcome by negetivity. The carer, the caring parent, the caring friend is not the direct sufferer. So the carer can be invisible and can suffer. It is so difficult for the carer to find support. The considerate carer will not put themselves first. The considerate carer will not break confidence. The considerate carer can be the un-considered carer.

There is lot of talk of self care. Self care is very difficult for the carer because the carer has made the decision to be there and is willingly go back in to fight for their loved one. The loved one will never know the pain of the carer unless they too become carers. Being a carer is a noble calling, yes, but a painful one endured in silence.

That is why "It Will Pass" is the only way to reason it out and to hold on to hope. Looking back makes "It Will Pass" possible.