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Swimming upstream!!
Hey Guys,
My first comment,its taken awhile!! I'v enjoyed reading your ones alot. Tips and motivation have given me alot of inspiration over the last few weeks!
I'm just having a really tough week, I'm trying to remain positive and remember that just as all good things come to an end, so do all bad things... I just feel like I'm steeped in negativity this week and can't shake it off!
Physically I havn't been feeling great and everything is a huge effort so that's probably not helping my mental state. All of a sudden I feel like I'm swimming upstream and I'm searching for things to be positive about in life.
Why is it when you feel like all the pieces are starting to fall into place, that suddenly you hit a wall and your not sure if you even want them to??
I'd really appreciate any advice, I'm lost, lonely, confused and baffled by every little piece of injusice is heightened around me. . . I think I'v come down with a severe case of the 'poor me's' and at a risk of wallowing in it . . . I'd just like to say 'POOR ME' ;)!!
Even the prospect of Spring can't cheer me up...
Ellen x x
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Thanks!!
Hey guys,
I'm so greatful for all your lovely comments!! I really appreciate the time you've taken to write them! Looking forward to group tomorow night and trying to put all of your kind advice into action. . . things are not so dark today so hopefully things will ease even just a little!
Ellen x
Change of focus...
Hello dear Ellen...
I want to congratulate to the amount of awareness that you are expressing in your post. It seems you have traveled already a good bit on the road towards recovery, maybe without properly acknowledging this to yourself. So this shall be the first thing you can do now :-)
Ok, you are feeling like steeped in negativity this week...however, this week is nearly over ;-)
So, you are coming down with a "severe dose of 'poor me'"... That's ok, every so often it nearly seems comforting to feel self-compassion. I really loved how Carol worded this in another post...for us to feel "enough compassion not to beat ourselves up, but not so much that we are feeling sorry for ourselves and stay in the condition." Because this 'risk of wallowing', as you very well seem to recognise yourself, is something the ED uses to PARALYZE us... so getting out of it as soon as possible is advised.
One way to get 'unstuck' for me is to CHANGE FOCUS... Surely, the more you focus on 'poor me' the more you get stuck in it...
ENERGY FLOWS WHERE YOUR FOCUS GOES, right...
One thing I have found real joy in this winter is FEEDING THE BIRDS... the poor wee things have had a really tough time with the big freeze... there is nothing more joyful than watch the little tits and robins and sparrows and finches and the blackbirds and starlings to enjoy the seeds and currents I put out. I even got a wee bird book to learn more about them...
Find something simple easy to do, and maybe listen to upbeat music while you do it, dance ;-)...
Any change of focus really will help to get back going again.
Oh yes, and if you feel very sensitive and 'baffled by every little piece of injustice that is heightened around you'...take a break from listening to the radio and listen to some nice music instead...
Have a lovely un-stucking Sunday, Ellen...
Love,
xxx R. xxx
welcome ! and thank you ........
Hola Ellen ,
Welcome To Iceberg , and thank you for sharing such a beautiful post , your honesty and awarness of how you are feeling , is fantastic Ellen and coming on Iceberg and expressing how you are really feeling is such A POSITIVE , so well done you hun ! and give yourself plenty of credit
The journey of recovery is like a jigsaw , and is fantastic when all the pieces are coming together , but from time to time , that piece no matter how you try to join it , just dosnt seem too , ................
I always found at this point Ellen what helped me , was to sit back and reflect on all the beautiful pieces that had come together , remind myself just how far I had come and how well I was doing , just to stop and appreciate where I was at , I found this time of reflection , always brought my positivity and determination right back up to the surface !!
You mentioned "Physically you havnt being feeling great, and everything is a huge effort " Fantastic Ellen!! , you are hearing body , but its important that you "LISTEN" to what body is saying !!! time for some tlc , some rest , some pampering , some fueling , think of all the ways that YOU can make body feel better , and as you very importantly pointed out , its not helping my mental state , absolutely Ellen , MIND AND BODY are so connected , and I reminded myself constantly on my journey , POSITIVE MIND , POSITIVE BODY , HEALTHY MIND , HEALTHY BODY , ............
I hope the above helps a Little Ellen , but remember baby steps, ,and every step counts , just like your step today on iceberg!!! again well done you !!!! I can can remember the first step I took on my journey Ellen , it was that step that took me one step closer to recovery , and today I am recovered , and all those steps inbetween , all those pieces of the jigsaw will come together Ellen . Recovery CAN and will happen , embrace your journey , and all the beauty that it will unfold ............. IT IS WORTH IT !
sending you love and support
xxyvonne xx
Let go of the oars!!
Hey Ellen,
Welcome to Iceberg, delighted that you've joined us! Writing the article alone and reading the other stories no doubt has helped you feel a bit better.
You say that you feel like you're swimming upstream... well why not just, go with the flow LET GO OF THE OARS!!! Just let go, surrender, almost say "I give up" and see what happens. The sun always rises in the morning. Seasons change. Rivers flow. Planets move. The tide comes out in the evening. There is a natural rhythm to the world that is a natural law, we just can't change it.
I'm sure you can think of MANY things to be thankful in your life. You have a house, heating, clothes, a job, college, clothing, eyes that can see, all of your limbs.... there is ALOT of great things going for you right now. Don't wait until Spring.. you can be happy right now!!
Lots of love,
Carol