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To everyone,but especially Ellen,R,Erika&Yvonne

Thank you! Such reassuring words. I am making 'go with the flow' my new motto. There are times when you have to push yourself or push a certain set of circumstances, but there are times to just let things take their path.
Self-trust is a very important thing for me to work on at the moment - it has always been a key aspect of this journey that i've struggled with but in the last while, has been constantly at the forefront of my mind.
I think it's essential to have a bit of faith in the universe and human nature in general. Then, once I count myself among the natural parts of this world I live in (and am trying to live in, in a more real and happy way!), I can trust myself as a part of this universe I've decided to have faith in.
TRUST. And go with the flow. That's enough to be working with for the minute!
All the best,
Michelle x

Comments

What if... revisited!!!!

Submitted on February 28th, 2010

Hi my darling Michelle... i am FINALLY getting to post a reply!!! I just have to get this out of my system!!

Ever since reading that lovely post from "L" the other day "THE SKY IS FALLING DOWN.." I have started to apply his/her great way of thinking... SO THANK YOU SO SO MUCH "L"!!!
Anyway, after i read your "communication problems" post last night the following has been in my head, so here goes...

What if this guy treats you like a princess and makes you feel beautiful and special for a while (no less than you deserve)...
What if a spark suddenly appears and you fall madly in love with each other...!!!!!!
What if you both live happily ever after...
And what if Michelle reaches that finish line even sooner than she thinks because she has started to LIVE HER LIFE and thus take the 'pressure' / focus, off recovery!!!

And what if the opposite happens,
What if you dont fall for him or he doesnt fall for you..
What if you BOTH realise that there is no spark and part company...
My answer to that is SO BLOODY WHAT!!!!!

You will BOTH have enriched each other's lives in some way...
Michelle may learn that she can 'go with the flow'..
Michelle may realise that she is stunning, beautiful, attractive, kind, caring, intelligent (and MUCH MUCH MORE) and capable of being part of a new relationship...
Now maybe my head is a little up in the clouds at times with the 'happy ever after' stuff but stranger things have happened:-)))
I really really believe that EVERYTHING IN LIFE HAPPENS FOR A REASON... so maybe, just maybe, you are MEANT to be with this guy for a reason... even IF your relationship fizzles out after a while.

I believe that there is LEARNING IN EVERY SINGLE LIFE EXPERIENCE and its obvious from your post that you, MY DARLING MICHELLE, are living your life (WOHOOOO!!!)... so GO LIVE YOU LIFE... AND ENJOY THE MAGIC OF NOT KNOWING WHAT LIES AHEAD....!

Have FUN first and recovery will follow...
'LIVE' first and recovery will follow.... (DONT WAIT FOR RECOVERY TO HAPPEN FIRST) (this is/was my experience:-))
Dont put your life on hold because of ED...

Thank you Michelle for being so HONEST in your post...
Best of luck sweetheart xx love jackief xx

Hey Michelle,GO with the

Submitted on February 28th, 2010

Hey Michelle,

GO with the flow and just trust that things will take the correct course of action...sounds like the perfect solution!
I've def learned that we can't get through recovery on our own. The support and reassurance of others is super important.
Erika x

go with the flow...

Submitted on February 27th, 2010

Fantastic, Michelle, I am delighted...
Go with the flow!
What a relief is that?!?!
I love it, go with the flow, and TRUST...the new MICHELLE-motto, and a most wonderful motto indeed, so much simpler than the over-complicated, diffuse, stressful and misleading ways of the conditioned mind.
I love it, you go Michelle!!!

Lots of love,
xxx R. xxx

~~ "Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over...it became a butterfly..." ~~