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The power of shifting ones focus
Hallo lovelies,
ENERGY GOES WHERE YOUR FOCUS FLOWS!
Something that’s very useful to keep in mind, particularly in periods of ruminating and obsessing that just further fuel the negative, condition and incredibly contradictory thoughts.
Consider this.....
Focusing on lack does not create abundance!
Focusing on the dark does not bring about the light!
Focusing on your flaws does not create perfection!
Focusing on your shortcomings does not bring about success!
Focusing on regrets does not create solutions!
Focusing on being single will not bring a tall, dark and handsome suitor!
Focusing on illness will not bring about health!
Focusing on despair, will not create hope!
Focusing on the fact that you have an ED does not bring about recovery.
Focusing on your constraints will not create your liberation.
Focusing on your fears will not bring about your freedom.
Remember,all your beliefs started off as thoughts, which were re-inforced because thats where your focus lay, and as a result became engrained within you!
I will never forget the day, time and place that an incredibly wonderful person, told me that I had a choice in how I viewed both myself and my life. “Everybody is living their own reality” she said, I’d heard it said before but always paid little hedence to it, assuming it to be some sorter crazy airy fairy, Pollyanna notion that only tree-huggers bought into! I mean it was “totally unrealistic”. But then again........said who?? Who defines and decides my reality??
She explained simply to me that everyone’s reality is based on their perception of life, ie. how you perceive everyday occurrences, conversations and situations. Learn to see the bigger picture, explore and discover the range of alternative possibilities and ways to percieve things, and then decided which one you want to invest your energy in!
Change your thoughts, your perception, -change your reality!
Always Remember "Energy goes where your focus flows."
Hope everyone has a good week, I was just reminded of this wonderful learning when I started worrying about how far behind I am in college and how little time I have to do these assignment. Guess what.......focusing on these two negatives is neither gonna help me catch up or magically create a 30 hour day so what’s the point? If anything, it only creates more panic, and less belief that I’ll manage. I have to switch it to, “I’ll do the best that I can with the resources available to me,” and with that in mind, being pro-active about it is a lot more enticing! Because, I know I’ll COPE, that is one area that my focus has become securely fixed!
Anyways lovelies, thanks for reading this, I hope it can make some form of sense to you, cause it really was such a valuable revelation to me when it sunk in. And for now it has certainly re-inforced the concept to me. So taa again,
Have a brill week,
Mmmwah
Saoirse










Comments
Yea that's actually one of my
Yea that's actually one of my favourite pieces of learning - I find it a really exciting approach - when I first started putting all the pieces together I just about lost my mind with excitement
I still love reading this stuff - it's so energising and exhilarating
Yea I miss the group .... I think there is so much powerful energy in a group all gathered together for one purpose
ah :) I rmbr all our little chats believe it or not
Lots of Love
Lee xxxx
Oh and i love the way you say
Oh and i love the way you say "for now" because it is something you need to constantly decide everyday - "what is it i want to invest my energy into" out of all the choices available to me...
when you maintain it - it's amazingly powerful but like you said .. you can forget .... we are only human ... and of course that's what recovery is all about ... accepting our human state...
But even if we forget from time to time and get caught up in the stress of a situation - there will always be the choice to re-connect with that more powerful wisdom
It is the greatest self-care you can give yourself
Lee xx
Lee!! My post ought to sound
Lee!!
My post ought to sound v-familiar to you!
Im so excited that your writing on this,I presumed it was you but couldn be sure! miss your happy head around the place!!
Enjoy the US,
HazelX
yep that's true Le x
yep that's true
Le x
Lovely article, well done and thank you!!!!
Hey Saoirse,
This article really started off my day in a good mood- thanks so much for posting
Focusing on being single will not bring a tall, dark and handsome suitor!
Ha ha so true, they can sense the longing! (I won't focus on how I know that one haha)
Focusing on your flaws does not create perfection!
Focusing on the fact that you have an ED does not bring about recovery.
I think this is like the premise of the condition... Feeling so horrible, so we mess with our food intake and that makes us feel more horrible so the food becomes a crutch again but it just makes us feel more horrible etc etc... tis a nasty cycle.
Your article is really good- it's so important to know that we create our reality. Everything that happens in our lives is neutral until we label it "good" or "bad" so choose the good thoughts... and you'll keep finding more reasons to be happy and thankful!!!!!
About the college work... I always visualized having my work finished well in time and I always did. Either it didn't take so long as I initially anticipated or else the lecturer would be sick or something and the deadline would be pushed forward. The main thing is not to panic or stress- that makes the assignment twice as long to do. It's all good :-)
Carol
Wow those points that you
Wow those points that you wrote there really do make sense! I know they will help me when negative thoughts start to cloud my mind.....
Thank you
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