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Accept and see the beauty

Ok, so here it is...I am beginning to accept myself. For as long as I can remember I've hated my body. And the mad thing is that looking back, I was actually quite thin! In particular, I absolutly hated my legs.They werent long enough, they were too fat etc etc. But now when I appriciate my legs for what they do, I can see that they are actually quite nice! I know that dosent sound like a big step, but to me, its massive. I think I am ending a lifelong struggle I had with body image and entering a new stage. Its scary and fritening and unknown and so much stuff which holds me back, but I can also see that I will be much happier when I move on.

A way I found helpful to become grateful for my body was to ask myself, for example 'what would I do if I was in a wheelchair and had no legs?' I no I certainly would not fuss over the size of fake legs if I was offered the chance of a surgery.....Ok I know that that is a weird way to look at it, but it helps me.

Hope this can help someone,
XxX A XxX

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Great quote Carol

Submitted on October 28th, 2009

That's such a good quote Carol - I laughed when i read it ... if we can find humour in our own despairs and complaints and daily miseries ... it can have a really positive impact

I rmbr a time when thinking about others being worse off wouldn't have had any impact on my own sense of self-loathing... so even to be aware enough to recognise all the things you have to be grateful for is a sign of movement in a positive direction
Le x

heya A, I think that's a

Submitted on October 28th, 2009

heya A,

I think that's a great way of appreciating what you have...I rmbr i used to hate my hair... and then 80% of it fell out and I was wishing I just had it back so that i could hate it or love it but just HAVE IT....

We do always HAVE more to be grateful for than we think.. we have more going for us than we think and yes!!!! WE ARE MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN WE THINK ... we just need to learn to see it & we cannot see it unless we are prepared to give ourselves a chance, to give our bodies some compassion and love and to work on our inner beliefs and perceptions so that we can start to see with new, more inpsiring, less miserable vision

It's like taking yourself to an internal optician - by changing the inside... you see the outside as a reflection of those changes...

What I found was that looking back -- I never could justify all the self-hatred.. it was all in my own head

I heard a girl say something amazing one time when she too had started to question the negative voice she always accepted as truth

"I thought the whole world was lying to me but it was my own thinking that was the lie..."

The condition will only ever tell you lies and pin you down in different ways... beauty is subjective ... when we decide to see ourselves as beautiful everything changes and the whole world believes it too ... in life just like the iceberg ... what is more impacting in what you DON'T SAY... Life operate most strongly on the level of energy... energy is a language..

when you believe in you... you send out a different energy into the universe and you attract a whole different world back
Your new positive example will certainly help lots of pple
Every time I encounter a person who loves, believes in & accepts themselves and therefore is free to love, believe in and accept others... it shifts me to a higher level of hope, freedom and inspiration. it's energising.. it's a feeling of being alive

We impact others most strongly through our own living example
Lots of Love
Le x