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Be the best YOU you can be!!

Someone gave me this a while back its a funny way of looking at accepting yourself!

On Being Yourself

You must learn that you cannot be loved by all people.

You can be the finest apple in the world,
ripe, juicy, sweet, and succulent
and offer yourself to all,
but there will be people who do not like apples.

If you are the world’s finest apple,
and someone you love does not like apples,
you still have the choice of becoming a banana,
but be warned: if you choose to become a banana,
you will be a second rate banana.
But you can always be the finest apple

You must also realize that if you choose to be a second rate banana,
there will be people who do not like bananas,
so you can spend your life trying to be the best banana
( which is impossible if you are an apple )
or you can seek again to be the finest apple.

Remember you are your most beautiful and interesting when you are yourself. No one is exactly like you, you are completely unique and therefor irreplacable!!

Loadsa love
Joanne x x x

Comments

Brilliant!!

Submitted on January 27th, 2010

Love this - such a great message, so concisely written.

Genius ;)

Thanks so much for posting

Submitted on November 27th, 2009

Thanks so much for posting this... really resonates with the old me xx

I want to be the finest apple...

Submitted on November 26th, 2009

Throughout my whole life I seemed to have pushed away the person that I am and tried to be...whatever else, just not what I am...
I have tried to become a different person, longed to be a different person, almost killed myself in the pursuit of becoming a different person... But where has all that got me? .....
I really really wanted to become a banana and just cracked with every new "failure"...it just didn't work, not even second class...

I know there are many different aspects that belong to each single person, and to reach full acceptance of myself I need to address every single one of these aspects. This is what is becoming clearer and clearer in my mind, slowly, since the workshop on recovery, finalizing and freedom last weekend. It is actually not much different from the ten selves in recovery. Each of them is unique for every single person...and recovery and acceptance for the full person needs to address each of them, step by step.
I can not work on one and ignore another...trying to be a perfect banapple, that just doesn't exist.

At the stage where I am finding myself in at the moment, I realize that not only my physical self requires to become whole and accepted, or my social self or mental or career or emotional...

There is one part of me that always rejected my national identity and origin, wherever this belongs to, and I know that it is of utmost importance that I come to terms with and accept and befriend this identity self that is the core of me.
I have learned over this summer, and I am learning with the work on my thesis, that it is not just as bad to be who I am, and that any legacy of the past has nothing to do with my own unique amazing me. These are, just like my genes that decide my physical development, things that are completely out of my control and I have no responsibility for, they are there and have been decided by some higher power...

Today I decide that I am an apple, that I love to be an apple, that I love apples anyway, and that I want to become crisper and fresher and more glowing and full of sweetness...

Thanks, Joanne...

xxx R. xxx