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Learning from Group - Building your home!

Learning from Group!

This was a group that was very important to me.

Think about this: Where do many of us spend most of our time? In our head! In our mind! Ruminating, thinking, worrying, whatever. If you spend so much of your time in this space... can you imagine how you would like it to be? Imagine you are building a mental home - what does it look like? where is it? try imagine every detail.

First of all consider:

What kind of visitors do you let into your home? Do you let dirty, mean, negative thoughts come in and wreck your gaf? Do you let toxic waste build up in your kitchen? Do you let mould grow on your bathroom walls? Is the attic full of old dusty junk? Is it full up of clutter and mess?

It doesn't make sense to have my home so full of negativity! i have learnt that analogies are very powerful. so when i see a negative thought coming into my home, i try imagine it as rubbish.... crumple it up and throw it in the bin, then the bin man comes along, crushes it in the dump and it is incinerated and then vaporised. it is gone!!! It didn't conform to the rules of my home so it was thrown out. get out the cillit bang and clear away the dust dirtying your home. As i have learnt the more rubbish i let build up, the more bluebottle flies that come along to feed on the dirt.

Then think about what you want to put in your clean space ... break your ties with the past and allow your new home to come to the fore. For all of us, we are already there , our perfect home already exists, it is just that it is buried deep under a lot of negativity.

When I think what I would have in my mental home.. I think of a veranda leading onto a beach, i think of ocean sounds, of calmness, of open spaces and no clutter, i think of positivity and joy! I see a place where i feel safe and truly at home! I see a place that is home. Not full of jagged edges and nasty things around corners. But comfortable and soft and mine!

I think everyone is different and everyone's own mental home could be a good project to work on. Thanks to the group for these tips!

As George Bernard Shaw said - "Better keep yourself clean and bright. You are the window through which you must see the world"

S.